Do you really think that an academic
education is the best treasure you can give to your kids? Think twice.
Because of what I do, I have the opportunity to talk
with a lot of adults and we talk about their past and their childhood and I do
not recall anybody saying: “it was so much fun to learn how to multiply”, I
used to love study more than 8 hours a day and then do homework, and I loved
it!”, “I used to love school because they were so strict and they always put me
in time out”, “because I did not play
too much when I was a kid, that is why I got my PhD”. NO.
They usually refer to their
childhood or teen years as follows: “I used to go with my dad fishing and we
had so much fun”, “my family and I used to spend time together at dinner and
talk stories”, “I used to cook with my mom and we made cookies on Sunday
night”, “my dad taught me how to drive”, my mom taught how to be very polite
and compassionate with others”.
I am not saying education at school
or university is not important, believe me I love it! I am an eternal student.
What I am trying to say here is that sometimes we are focusing in how we are
going to give our children something we did not have, or a better education so
they are “someone” in the future, etc, that we forget that we can give them more
and better things.
Why do not we switch gears and think
for a moment: “What can I give to my child that it is not only going to last
forever but it is going to make us bond as a family?” All the good memories
that we keep in our mind are those that we were with people, and in growing up
years that people are our parents or adults around us and our friends. They
learn by example more than by words.
If they see parents working, being
discipline, eating well, loving themselves and others, how do you think that
child is going to grow up doing? Yes, the same. We just have to relax and make it
easier for all of us. What we can really teach at home that nowadays is missed
in some schools is spirituality.
That is big word for some of you, for others,
it is a piece of cake. I am talking about purpose in life, know that there is
something greater than us, that all of us are part of a whole and that is why
we need to respect and love others as we love one of our legs, our eyes, and so
on. If you do not love yourself, that is another story. You probably will work
on that when you are ready, and teach that to your child.
That's all for now, I hope I gave something to think
about or to talk about. My mom used to say: "it does not matter than
others are talking good or bad about you; what really matters is that they ARE
talking about you".
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like. Until then, just breathe.
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